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At 30 Years Old, I Have Given Up On Making Friends
A few weeks ago, I wrote about how my best friend ended our friendship quite abruptly. You may have read it; if not, essentially, she thought I hadn’t been supportive enough as of late — she texted me this instead of telling me face-to-face, which was upsetting in and of itself. This revelation was a slight shock to me as I explained to her but alas, the friendship was over. I know I am never going to see her again and that makes me sad. The thing is, while I considered her my best friend out of a relatively small pool of people to choose from, I know I didn’t even crack her top 20 of a much larger group. And that’s the case of so many friends I’ve lost over the years. But that’s not all…
Fitting in VS Belonging
I saw this thing on Instagram about the difference between fitting in and belonging. Belonging means that you are part of a group and they want you there, whereas fitting in means that you are trying to be part of a group but nobody cares whether you’re there or not.
I’m the latter.
As you probably know, I’ve always been an introvert. This isn’t ideal when it comes to making friends, and while I’ve learned how to work with my introversion, it still isn’t enough. I’ve been part of several friend groups over the years but I’ve never left like I’ve ever belonged…
